Nothing I do will bring my husband back. When he first died, I pleaded with God to rewind time and bring him back. I knew that was not going to happen but my pain was so intense I was hoping that God would make an exception and do it for me. But since my husband is not coming back I am left with a choice- do I sit around wishing him back or do I move forward with life?
I choose to move forward.
There are many books and articles on grief. I have read (and enjoyed) a lot of them. The problem is we live in a how-to society. And so when it comes to grieving we want to know how we are supposed to grieve. The same can be said for moving forward. We want to know what is the right way to move forward.
I don't believe there is one way to move forward.
For me moving forward means accepting that my husband is not coming back. It means, as difficult as it is, to begin dreaming again. It means not staying stuck in the "This is not how life was supposed to turn out" mentality rather say "While this isn't what I planned I accept my new reality." It means creating a life without my husband in it because the alternative of dwelling in the past and moving forward is unhealthy.
Some people are afraid that other's will take moving forward as moving on.
When it comes to moving forward there are some who will question the love you had for your spouse. Ignore them!
Moving forward does not mean you are not in pain and it absolutely doesn't mean you don't still love your spouse
I choose to move forward