Thank God I don't get hate mail, but I follow other widows on social media and these are the types of questions they receive at times. Those who ask are probably well-meaning but they don't understand grief. They don't understand what it is like to have a spouse die.
This has been a tough week. I was hoping I was over tough weeks. Some have said that the second year of grief is harder than the first but the first month after the one year anniversary of my husband's death was a pretty good month. I could feel the healing. I could feel restoration. But then I had a tough week. And I guess I'm not over tough weeks. And I realize that I probably won't ever be over tough weeks.
And honestly that realization kind of sucks.
I cried driving home from church on Sunday because my husband wasn't there any more to sit next to me in church. I cried while making dinner on Monday because I wasn't making dinner for my husband. I cri…